Trying to be nice

One of the risks, if your aim is to stay in power, is that you always play nice. When there is genuine conflict within the household, this pathetic weakness and failure to face the arguments from both sides makes you look like the fatuous incompetents you have become.

We have perfect examples with Jacinta Allan's highly reactionary and inept responses to violent attacks on the police this month.
Her governments desperate and clear cringing stands out like Dogs balls.
They preach to us about how to better manage everything from energy environment and care when its very clear they cannot face the conflicts in their own households; they tell us they know how to get things to run smoothly when they, in their own home territory, have no idea. Not every one agrees with the decisions of the little emperors there but they hypocritically forge their way, calling it a mandate from the people.  

And so this weakness grows within all those who are threatened by their inability to manage conflict. 
Neither the ABC or 7 news can bring them to report on the real nature of the conflict because these dying legacy media have the same view of those desperately holding onto the chairs in Spring Street. They are afraid of the truth coming out and most afraid of those who are pushing hardest to get what they want.  They have let the children rule in the household. 

Playing nice lets the bullies rule.  
The incumbents are like imprisoned children who allow the children to stay in charge 
Like some gaslighted poor woman, they scream help but don't know there their way through to reconciliation from their own anger that started it.
The bully knows well how to get others really angry (and in guilt and  jail) without appearing angry himself. 
Working through anger and bullying takes more wisdom than the promoters of niceness have between them. 

The cringers and the superficial commentators do not seem to realize that the bully is always playing nice too when he appears in public. 
Where will the breakthrough come? . Stricter lock up rules ? No--that practice only covers up the problem and exaggerates it.
And the bully knows well how to get others really angry ( and in jail) without appearing angry himself. 

The only solution that works is to force the truth forward and deal with it as Sky news did when they reported the weekends rock throwing violence, group aims and actions and police commentary properly. 
The bully behaves like an angel in public so the best way is to expose him is to expose what happens behind closed doors. 
His well versed talk is full of manipulated facts but if you get him to talk to his world view ( does he believe in revenge for example calling it as he might restitution?)

The bully exposed  is lost to most of us  - his focus is all about himself , his anger and his getting his own way.   
The only answer that works is when the head of the household faces the bully and the public with the truth,
Full and fearless reporting of both sides,  
  
The war will often appear to get worse before it gets better ; especially in households whose leaders cringe in the face of bullies- whose aim is to stay in power but not face the truth that you have to reject those who just play nice.